Soon after our first was born my wife asked her moms group: 'is four in the afternoon too early to have a beer?'. They answered: 'Oh, no, we've discussed it extensively and three o'clock is fine.'
Nothing wrong with being an ambitious mom but you need to pick the right support group and it's probably not instagram.
One of my hobbies tends to attract a fairly rural and blue collar crowd (or at least more rural and blue collar than Reddit and HN) and the requirements of the hobby mean that you probably have your shit together at least a little bit. The "everything else" sub-forum on our forum is so good at giving life advice that it's become a running joke. This sounds like exactly the kind of answer their wives would give. That said, they'll bite you back real hard if you act like a jerk.
While not entirely requiring your life to be together, any significantly tough outdoors activity tends to get an interesting group. Local search and rescue volunteer hiking groups, for example, tends to be a weird mix of geology teachers, ex-marines and firefighters, and nerdy hiker types.
The book "Why we Sleep" talks about how alcohol is a REM-suppressor and how it prevents you from getting deep restful sleep. Drinking alcoholic drinks in the evening/night is much worse than drinking earlier in the day.
Nothing wrong with being an ambitious mom but you need to pick the right support group and it's probably not instagram.